Welcome to the Brain Library — a cosy little corner where all my favourite thoughts end up.
You’ll find ADHD insights, tiny tools, creative musings, short stories, and whatever else my busy brain refuses to keep to itself. Dip in, wander, enjoy, and take whatever helps or delights you.
Why We Shouldn’t Be Our People’s Therapist
I don’t think most of us ever decide that we’re going to become the therapist in our closest relationships. It usually grows out of things that are, on the surface at least, quite admirable. Being able to listen. Being able to stay present when emotions run high. Being someone who can make sense of complexity…
Dawning on fawning: the most insidious trauma response
When people talk about trauma responses, they usually mention fight, flight or freeze. These ones are easier to recognise. They look dramatic. They look like distress. Fawning doesn’t really look like anything is wrong. Fawning often looks like kindness. Like thoughtfulness. Like emotional intelligence. It looks like being flexible, understanding, good with people. It looks…
Micro fiction: we are sorry for the delay
Another Monday morning, waiting for the trainJust the usual . Hope it’s not late again. What’s that on the tracks… a jacket? Looks like the one Maya had.That sassy one with studs. She’d never go anywhere without it. Sucks to lose something like that. Or maybe some asshole stole it and just dumped it.and now…
Taking people along with you
ADHD brains don’t just think fast; they think in more than one direction at the same time. We tend to move fluidly between top-down and bottom-up thinking, which means we can hold the bigger picture, the sense of where something is heading, while also tracking the detail, the mechanics, and the practical steps that make…
Repeat after me: Speed is not efficiency
We talk a lot about “working smarter, not harder”, but most of us quietly translate that as “go faster”. Especially if you have an ADHD brain. Speed feels efficient. Fast decisions, fast fixes, fast thinking. Clear the list, move on, next thing. There is a sense of relief in speed, like finally catching up with…
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Katherine Mengardon 