Welcome to the Brain Library — a cosy little corner where all my favourite thoughts end up.
You’ll find ADHD insights, tiny tools, creative musings, short stories, and whatever else my busy brain refuses to keep to itself. Dip in, wander, enjoy, and take whatever helps or delights you.
‘If I Could Just…’ Or the Self-Torture Formula
How many times have you told yourself, ‘If I could just…’? If I could just get up earlier. If I could just get organised. If I could just finish that thing. If I could just go to bed when I’m tired. If I could just do the things I know would make me feel better.…
The Gift of Incompetence, or How to Stop Being Everybody Else’s Side Brain
Some people pour years of patience and attention into a practice: yoga, tai chi, meditation, the exquisite art of trimming a bonsai into exactly the right shape. I have been working really hard at developing my a-game in intentional incompetence. It has taken practice, dedication, and serious leaps of faith. But I’m getting there, despite…
Why Face-to-Face Is Wrong for Tough Conversations
We have this strange idea that if a conversation really matters, we should have it face to face. It is somehow considered more grown-up, more honest, more courageous and certainly more respectful. You don’t break up with someone by text. You don’t raise serious problems with your manager over email. If something difficult needs saying,…
Don’t Abandon Yourself. Don’t Be a D*ck.
I have drawn two guiding principles for myself recently, and they are not especially sophisticated. No worksheets, no acronym, no laminated therapeutic framework involving twelve coloured boxes and a wheel. They are simply this: Don’t abandon yourself, don’t be a dick. And actually, I think they’re pretty good. This is particularly relevant for the people…
The art of the pause
In my sessions, I talk A LOT about the art of the pause, and the regularity with which it shows up in conversation tells me it means something rather bigger than simply ‘take a breath before you reply to that email’ (although, to be fair, sometimes taking a breath before you reply to that email…
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